Time. Precious commodity. Never enough of it. If only there were more hours in the day. Well, there aren’t, so we better learn to use the time we have to greatest effect. To ensure we live a life that isn’t constantly stressful, we prioritize. Most executives and employees are fairly used to this. However, we are also becoming a workforce who are under slept, overworked, stressed and frankly, in far too many instances, not living the quality of life we deserve.
I am going to share one simple exercise with you that I have seen have a profound effect on some of my clients. If you find it hard to say no to anyone, be it colleagues, your boss, or your friends and family, you will soon find yourself fraught with far too much to fit into your day.
The exercise is simply to ask yourself this:
‘If I say ‘yes’ to this, what am I saying ‘no’ to? You can also turn it around. For some reason, women seem to suffer more from this syndrome of feeling they have to say ‘yes’ to everything.
For example: I worked with a female client who began saying ‘yes’ to writing an extra report that was not her responsibility. She was asked to do it, and could never find the words to say ‘no.’ This report would take her about four hours and she said she always missed her weekly yoga class when the report was due. Yoga helped her stress levels and helped her to relax, so it was important to her. What are you saying ‘yes’ to that means you are saying ‘no’ to something else?
It may take a little more prioritizing and negotiation, but the quality of your life can improve dramatically by asking yourself this one simple question.
So next time you find yourself saying yes (or indeed, no) to something, ask yourself either what you are giving up (or gaining as the case may be.)
I wish you happy questioning. The list is below.
Saying Yes—Saying No
By saying YES to………… I am saying NO to
By saying NO to………. I am saying YES to
P.S. I am now doing more coaching by Skype, so if you don’t live in Ireland, but would like to discuss a coaching consult, please do get in touch. A free initial consult will help you decide whether you wish to proceed with coaching, and whether I am the right person to assist you.